currently listening to:
Alin - 我很忙
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vxzQ2IVs-vw&feature=related

I'm not a bad person because I change people... I meet someone, and I fall for them. I fall for them HARD. And in the process, I give them my all, I do anything and everything for them. I try to change them, and I get hurt in the process, but at the end of it all, when I'm no longer by their side, they realize it too. I've changed them for the better, and I've made an impact in their lives. Sometimes if you can't live without someone, you'd rather cut them out of your life completely and never hear about them again. Just move on with your life.

Thinking back, was I ever a "bad" gf? No, I doubt that. In fact, I may have been "too good" to the point of smothering and unhealthily complacent. No, that's not being a bad gf, it's caring too much more than he does. It's being too available and worrying too much about his needs. Fortunately for me, I've come to realize I need more than that too. I need to be happy, not by keeping him happy, but because I am doing something I truly enjoy doing, for myself.

Who needs a new year's resolution when their resolve is just to be happy for themselves?